Sunday, August 25, 2019

Politics

So I posted a quote from this lady, I thought it was attention grabbing and hyperbolically relevant, so I put it up to get attention and to rile people up, which it did.


I discovered what I'm more upset about is in regards to language and in dating. I feel there is a double standard in the ability for women to shame men freely calling them trash/pigs/dogs. While men critiquing women, or critiquing women for shaming men is not okay. I suppose that is just the game, and I don't have to complain about it.

Most of what I am for is in regards to dating, and I believe that masculine traits are generally attractive to women, if used in the correct way. Not over the top aggression, and so on.

I'm hungry to learn and find ways to be more healthily masculine and I have been researching ways to practice it.  To create success, improve my self, and attract beautiful women into my life.

 I can see how people could have interpreted this quote, as it is a bit of an attack. Although is has some truth to it in my opinion. People can be very sensitive and triggered, especially when things are posted online.

I don't like that what I did was somehow a political statement to people. Because it's not political, it's social, and people like to make things political these days. Many folks came out of the wood work to comment on it. People made some good points and shed some new light. I deleted it because it felt like clickbait, and it's not representative of me.

This is my blog, it has my name on it, and I am not "all" about dating, understanding women and masculinity. The amount of people reading my blogs has gone down since I began writing about this kind of stuff heavily. I imagine people interpret me through my blog posts and it's not accurately representative of me or my life.

What I also got from posting that quote was the amount of "being right" and "making others wrong" that came from it, which happens in politics all the time, and in life. Which is what I was doing too, trying to be right.

I became re present to that being what I dislike about politics and political correctness. The stubborn stances people take, and the unwillingness to listen or look wrong.

Something I've diverged from is sharing personal stories on this blog many times. Rather than fearing I am being preachy by putting out my beliefs, I'd rather share embarrassing or funny stories, because I don't care if you're offended at who I am.

I don't like to divide people, and just because we disagree politically or socially, shouldn't deny us from being friendly, or enjoying each other's work.

So, I'll be going back to sharing personal stories and experiences on this blog, and move my dating and male/female centered posts to somewhere else. As it is a side passion of mine.

I'm going to tell my stories how I want to, I like sharing things from my childhood and young adult hood, and I am offensive and filthy at times. I like to talk about sex and shitting and all the stuff they tell you not to talk about in school, church and at funerals.

Sunday, August 11, 2019

Carolines don't like my blog

There was a lady named Caroline I met at an improv show. We exchanged numbers and she began to pursue me, she showed me some red flags when we would text, but I wanted to engage in premarital intercourse with her, so I ignored these red flags.

One night, she came to see me perform, and after I went to her place and we did the deed. It was more like performing surgery. It took a long time, and she was being annoying and saying antagonistic things most of the event. Which was similar to a root canal I had near the end of my last relationship.

A week or so later I posted a blog about how I don't care for certain elements of modern gender feminism. I was writing this article for about a month and a half or so, because I knew it was controversial and wanted to be careful with how I put it out there. She texted me, some time later saying "I read your blog, I'm out" and unfriended me on Facebook. 

Another female I had been seeing had read this same post. She told me she didn't read the whole thing but was upset by it. We ended up engaging in premarital activities that night, and I have not seen her since. I found it interesting that we still got together after she'd read it, and find it more fitting that we haven't done it again. 

A few months ago, I met another girl named Caroline at a bar. We talked for a bit, I then left after exchanging numbers and agreeing that we should get together some time soon. She put in both her first and last name in my contacts. I called her a few days later, we set up a date, and she asked for my last name, I didn't give it to her. 

She then texted me later saying that she couldn't agree to go out with me without knowing my last name. She feared I would kidnap her (a joke I imagine) and no one would be able to find out who I was unless my last name was present in her contacts. A ploy to make me give it to her, I didn't want to, I found it weird that she wanted it so much, but I I gave it to her. You might find it weird that I didn't want to give it to her, I found it annoying that she asked, and not a big deal for her to have to know.

Later, she texted me saying that she thought my blog was "interesting". I asked if she agreed to go out on the day we agreed upon and she said that she didn't think that we had anything in common. I imagine she got offended or upset by some of my articles.

The blog posts I've written this year are primarily about women. My thoughts, opinions and experiences with them. Dating has been an important part of my life. Finding beautiful women to exchange orgasms with is something I and other straight men enjoy. Women are harder to understand than men, especially in the dating realm, so I've been very active in learning about this topic the past two years or so. 

I imagine that certain women read this and feel that I am trying to make them wrong, and or they get emotionally triggered and decide that I am a toxically masculine, womanizing misogynist. I'm pushing for positive masculinity. 

Because things like toxic masculinity and misogyny are so openly talked about. Shaming men is a common and even an encouraged practice. While Toxic Feminism and misandry are not on most people's radar as destructive or present. If we all want to be equal, then things should be equal on all playing fields. We can call men trash/pigs/dogs all day, and when men fight back or question this, it is shamed or not taken seriously.

I imagine that I did not mesh well with these two Carolines, and something mutually beneficial may not have sparked if they had not read my blog. I share myself and my opinions about women on here because that is what I am interested in learning and writing about right now. It's important to me to push that masculinity is not toxic.

I am a lot deeper than just my anti matriarchal spews on this blog. But that is what I am putting on here, so I can't blame you for relating to me as that, if that is what you are doing. 

I have been misunderstood a lot through out my life, as have a lot of people. And Carolines seem to dislike my views on their kind. It's okay if you are a Caroline, we are just not a match.

Sunday, August 4, 2019

Sexual Nature

I finished reading this book called Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha awhile back. It breaks down human and sexual nature from our hunter gatherer days, and how it has morphed into monogamy, marriage, having kids, cheating, divorce, etcetera. Because as human beings, we want security (marriage, kids) along with variety (one night stands, variety of sexual partners). I find this stuff very interesting, and looking at modern day relationships versus where I evolved from tells us why modern day relationships look the way they do.

One element that I found extremely interesting and true is our inherently sexually selfish desires. Which stems from procreation, and wanting to pass on stronger genes. After having listened to the Alan Roger Curries audio book The Beta Male Revolution, and The Rational Male a lot of this stuff was confirmed about alpha and beta males versus promiscuous women and good girl types.

The men that have the most sex, with the most women are alpha male types. And the women who have the most sex are the promiscuous types.

In an ideal world for alpha males. They would spend their youth having sex with many promiscuous girls and women. Once he reaches a ripe age for reproduction, or he finds a nice prudish good girl to lock down and marry, he would. Preferably an attractive woman who is a virgin, and does not act promiscuous or show any signs of leaving or cheating on him. He would get her pregnant, to ensure his genes being passed on, and once his wife is "subdued" he can go out and have his fun with various promiscuous females.

This way, the men get to have their cake and eat it too. They get their sexual needs met with a variety of women, and he ensures his paternity by impregnating his wife.

In an ideal world for promiscuous women. They would spend their youth having sex with various, erotically dominant alpha males. Once they reach a ripe age for reproduction and marriage, they settle down with an emotionally available, wealthy (resource providing) beta male. Once they marry him and get bored of the potentially bland sex, they would most likely go out and have some hot sex with an alpha male type, or invite one over when her husband is at work. Allowing herself to be impregnated by a strong alpha male type, for the beta male husband to raise as his own. As the stronger genes are being passed on, and being raised by a more reliable, resource providing man.

This way, the women get to have their cake and eat it too, They get their sexual needs met and the offspring that they want. While also having their emotional and financial needs met by their husbands.

If you are being honest with yourself, this would be an ideal situation if their were no repercussions. We all want to have our cake and eat it too. It is natural. But, being that their are other people required with this formula that are being used, it doesn't work well in society. It has been happening for a long time, and their is a lot of damage that has been done when this kind of stuff happens.

Long term monogamy is not really a "natural" thing, it just works for men to have peace of mind that their paternity is confirmed. And it gives women more peace of mind to know that their husband won't leave them when they are pregnant. Laws are set in place to create security, which reduces excitement and variety with sexuality in long term relationships, for the most part. That's just what I believe happens from my observations and what I read and listen to.

The book goes into our true sexual nature, comparing us to bonobos and chimps, and analyzing our nature as hunter and gatherer types. Looking at our past, we were not meant to sit at cubicles for 40 hours a week, so we have back and sleep problems. Just as our ancestors ate meat, some people choose to be vegetarian.

Just as our ancestors were sleeping around, we eventually evolved into being monogamous. Marriage has evolved into a normal thing that you do once you hit a certain age.  With our true sexual nature, we are not meant to settle down with one person for most of our lives, thus, cheating and divorce is very common.

I found this extremely interesting, because for the most part, men and women want different things sexually, in how we pass our genes on to create more of us.

It also confirmed my desire as a man to be promiscuous, and not settle down with any one woman too quickly, as I am young. I want to continue focusing on building myself, to be a better partner for an amazing woman someday.

I have become very interested in sex if you haven't noticed, so if anyone is interested in discussing it with me, hit me up.