Sunday, August 25, 2019

Politics

So I posted a quote from this lady, I thought it was attention grabbing and hyperbolically relevant, so I put it up to get attention and to rile people up, which it did.


I discovered what I'm more upset about is in regards to language and in dating. I feel there is a double standard in the ability for women to shame men freely calling them trash/pigs/dogs. While men critiquing women, or critiquing women for shaming men is not okay. I suppose that is just the game, and I don't have to complain about it.

Most of what I am for is in regards to dating, and I believe that masculine traits are generally attractive to women, if used in the correct way. Not over the top aggression, and so on.

I'm hungry to learn and find ways to be more healthily masculine and I have been researching ways to practice it.  To create success, improve my self, and attract beautiful women into my life.

 I can see how people could have interpreted this quote, as it is a bit of an attack. Although is has some truth to it in my opinion. People can be very sensitive and triggered, especially when things are posted online.

I don't like that what I did was somehow a political statement to people. Because it's not political, it's social, and people like to make things political these days. Many folks came out of the wood work to comment on it. People made some good points and shed some new light. I deleted it because it felt like clickbait, and it's not representative of me.

This is my blog, it has my name on it, and I am not "all" about dating, understanding women and masculinity. The amount of people reading my blogs has gone down since I began writing about this kind of stuff heavily. I imagine people interpret me through my blog posts and it's not accurately representative of me or my life.

What I also got from posting that quote was the amount of "being right" and "making others wrong" that came from it, which happens in politics all the time, and in life. Which is what I was doing too, trying to be right.

I became re present to that being what I dislike about politics and political correctness. The stubborn stances people take, and the unwillingness to listen or look wrong.

Something I've diverged from is sharing personal stories on this blog many times. Rather than fearing I am being preachy by putting out my beliefs, I'd rather share embarrassing or funny stories, because I don't care if you're offended at who I am.

I don't like to divide people, and just because we disagree politically or socially, shouldn't deny us from being friendly, or enjoying each other's work.

So, I'll be going back to sharing personal stories and experiences on this blog, and move my dating and male/female centered posts to somewhere else. As it is a side passion of mine.

I'm going to tell my stories how I want to, I like sharing things from my childhood and young adult hood, and I am offensive and filthy at times. I like to talk about sex and shitting and all the stuff they tell you not to talk about in school, church and at funerals.

Sunday, August 11, 2019

Carolines don't like my blog

There was a lady named Caroline I met at an improv show. We exchanged numbers and she began to pursue me, she showed me some red flags when we would text, but I wanted to engage in premarital intercourse with her, so I ignored these red flags.

One night, she came to see me perform, and after I went to her place and we did that. It was more like performing surgery. It took a long time, and she was being annoying and saying antagonistic things most of the event. Which was similar to a root canal I had near the end of my last relationship.

A week or so later I posted a blog about how I don't care for certain elements of feminism titled "Behind every great man, there is a great woman." I was writing this article for about a month and a half or so, because I knew it was controversial and wanted to be careful with how I put it out there. She texted me, some time later saying "I read your blog, I'm out" and unfriended me on Facebook. 

Another female I had been seeing had read this same post, she told me she didn't read the whole thing but was upset by it. We ended up engaging in premarital activities that night, and I have not seen her since. I found it interesting that we still got together after she'd read it, and find it more fitting that we haven't done it again. 

A few months ago, I met another girl named Caroline at a bar. We talked for a bit, I then left and said we should get together another time soon. She gave me her number and she put in both her first and last name in my contacts. I called her a few days later, we set up a date, and she asked for my last name, I didn't give it to her. 

She then texted me later saying that she couldn't agree to go out with me without knowing my last name. She feared I would kidnap her (a joke I imagine) and no one would be able to find out who I was unless my last name was present in her contacts. A ploy to make me give it to her,I didn't want to, I found it weird that she wanted it so much, but I I gave it to her. You might find it weird that I didn't want to give it to her, I found it annoying that she asked, and not a big deal for her to have to know.

Later, she texted me saying that she thought my blog was "interesting". I asked if she agreed to go out on the day we agreed upon and she said that she didn't think that we had anything in common. I imagine she got offended or upset by some of my articles.

The blog posts I've written this year are primarily about women. My thoughts, opinions and experiences with them. Dating has been an important part of my life, finding beautiful women to exchange orgasms with. Women are harder to understand than men, especially in the dating realm, so I've been very active in learning about this topic the past two years or so. 

I imagine that certain women read this and feel that I am trying to make them wrong, and or they get emotionally triggered and decide that I am a toxically masculine, womanizing misogynist. I'm pushing for positive masculinity. 

Because things like toxic masculinity and misogyny are so openly talked about. Shaming men is a common and even an encouraged practice. While Toxic femininity and misandry are not on most people's radar. If we all want to be equal, then things should be equal on all playing fields.

I imagine that I did not mesh well with these two Carolines, and something mutually beneficial may not have sparked if they had not read my blog. I share myself and my opinions about women on here because that is what I am interested in learning and writing about right now. It's important to me to push that masculinity is not toxic.

I am a lot deeper than just my anti matriarchal spews on this blog. But that is what I am putting on here, so I can't blame you for relating to me as that, if that is what you are doing. 

I have been misunderstood a lot through out my life, as have a lot of people. And Carolines seem to dislike my views on their kind. It's okay if you are a Caroline, we are just not a match.

Sunday, August 4, 2019

Sexual Nature

I finished reading this book called Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha awhile back. It breaks down human and sexual nature from our hunter gatherer days, and how it has morphed into monogamy, marriage, having kids, cheating, divorce, etcetera. Because as human beings, we want security (marriage, kids) along with variety (one night stands, variety of sexual partners). I find this stuff very interesting, and looking at modern day relationships versus where I evolved from tells us why modern day relationships look the way they do.

One element that I found extremely interesting and true is our inherently sexually selfish desires. Which stems from procreation, and wanting to pass on stronger genes. After having listened to the Alan Roger Curries audio book The Beta Male Revolution, and The Rational Male a lot of this stuff was confirmed about alpha and beta males versus promiscuous women and good girl types.

The men that have the most sex, with the most women are alpha male types. And the women who have the most sex are the promiscuous types.

In an ideal world for alpha males. They would spend their youth having sex with many promiscuous girls and women. Once he reaches a ripe age for reproduction, or he finds a nice prudish good girl to lock down and marry, he would. Preferably an attractive woman who is a virgin, and does not act promiscuous or show any signs of leaving or cheating on him. He would get her pregnant, to ensure his genes being passed on, and once his wife is "subdued" he can go out and have his fun with various promiscuous females.

This way, the men get to have their cake and eat it too. They get their sexual needs met with a variety of women, and he ensures his paternity by impregnating his wife.

In an ideal world for promiscuous women. They would spend their youth having sex with various, erotically dominant alpha males. Once they reach a ripe age for reproduction and marriage, they settle down with an emotionally available, wealthy (resource providing) beta male. Once they marry him and get bored of the potentially bland sex, they would most likely go out and have some hot sex with an alpha male type, or invite one over when her husband is at work. Allowing herself to be impregnated by a strong alpha male type, for the beta male husband to raise as his own. As the stronger genes are being passed on, and being raised by a more reliable, resource providing man.

This way, the women get to have their cake and eat it too, They get their sexual needs met and the offspring that they want. While also having their emotional and financial needs met by their husbands.

If you are being honest with yourself, this would be an ideal situation if their were no repercussions. We all want to have our cake and eat it too. It is natural. But, being that their are other people required with this formula that are being used, it doesn't work well in society. It has been happening for a long time, and their is a lot of damage that has been done when this kind of stuff happens.

Long term monogamy is not really a "natural" thing, it just works for men to have peace of mind that their paternity is confirmed. And it gives women more peace of mind to know that their husband won't leave them when they are pregnant. Laws are set in place to create security, which reduces excitement and variety with sexuality in long term relationships, for the most part. That's just what I believe happens from my observations and what I read and listen to.

The book goes into our true sexual nature, comparing us to bonobos and chimps, and analyzing our nature as hunter and gatherer types. Looking at our past, we were not meant to sit at cubicles for 40 hours a week, so we have back and sleep problems. Just as our ancestors ate meat, some people choose to be vegetarian.

Just as our ancestors were sleeping around, we eventually evolved into being monogamous. Marriage has evolved into a normal thing that you do once you hit a certain age.  With our true sexual nature, we are not meant to settle down with one person for most of our lives, thus, cheating and divorce is very common.

I found this extremely interesting, because for the most part, men and women want different things sexually, in how we pass our genes on to create more of us.

It also confirmed my desire as a man to be promiscuous, and not settle down with any one woman too quickly, as I am young. I want to continue focusing on building myself, to be a better partner for an amazing woman someday.

I have become very interested in sex if you haven't noticed, so if anyone is interested in discussing it with me, hit me up.

Sunday, July 28, 2019

Shifts of Interest

When I started writing this blog, I was obsessed with writing comedy, and was subtly angry/dissatisfied about everything in my life. I was in a loll with the ladies, and made sex something that I didn't "need" because I didn't feel capable or equipped in dating. 

I felt like talking about sex was hacky, and easy, and was not truly in integrity with being funny. So I didn't really do it, 'twas more my excuse for not being able to get laid. 


So I obsessed and focused on writing, learning about comedy, performing when I could, and watching lots of movies and TV. I started writing about comedians I liked and things I was dissatisfied about in life on here. 

Then I discovered Landmark shortly after in January of 2016, I shifted to writing about self helpy type of things, and ways to make myself feel better by taking action in my life. I became more positive, and discovered a lot more love for people.  

One thing that I did recently, that stems from this education is make phone calls to  acknowledge people. It seems weird and some fear and hesitation comes up, but I always feel better after having called someone and told them something I admire about them, or just say "I acknowledge you for being my friend." People really appreciate it and get value out of hearing that from  you. It doesn't have to be "for" anything, other than you want to make them and yourself feel good.

In the last three years or so, I talked about comedy, self helpy things, and in the last year and a half I have been very focused on researching dating, masculinity and femininity, etcetera. My former self is calling me a hack, although I am still doing and in pursuit of creating things, it has merged with sexuality.  

Part of me wants to ease up on the sexual stuff, but I find it very interesting. Also having gone through a painful breakup about eight months ago. I'm taking a lot preventative medicine and action in this research and field studying. 
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I just finished another audio book "The Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi. Via a recommendation from a guy I've been watching on YouTube, Richard Cooper. It was a game changing book on being red pill aware, and it breaks down men, women, alpha and beta males, and dating in a lot of detail, and if anyone is interested you should definitely check him out

It gives a lot of psychological and biological evidence that breaks down the social and cultural conditions that we currently live in.
That's it, I hope you all enjoyed yourselves. 

Sunday, June 23, 2019

Back from Bath a Year ago Today

One year ago today I flew home from my six month study abroad stay in Bath, England. I was torn because I had acquired an attractive, partner of the opposite sex, whom I was sad to leave. I had also made some great friends along the way, that I had to leave. Along with the students, teachers, and the acting curriculum that I participated in during my time.

Bath is a beautiful city, I loved walking around, taking in the sites, and chatting up strangers when I could. I have thought back on it a lot since my return. It doesn't seem real that it was a year ago today. The time I have been back seems like it has gone a lot faster than when I was in England.

I spent some time with the other foreign exchange students in the beginning. Luckily, the other male in the group, Mikael, was awesome, and we got along well and had some fun nights out at pubs. He was from Finland, and was very knowledgable about alcohol, he was studying philosophy, so we had a lot of great discussions. 

I soon met all of my fellow acting students, and spent time working with them, and partying with them in dorms, pubs, and clubs. And six days into my trip I found myself having unprotected sex in one of them in her room after our first night out. Awesome. I enjoyed my experience with these English acting students. I was impressed with a lot of their natural talent. I do believe English actors are trained with more rigor, and the preparation is more extensive. I met some people that I would not be surprised in seeing them in our country killing it on the next Game of Thrones type of show.

I had some fun female experiences, mostly making out at pubs and clubs and one night stands. One of them during the day, from a gal I essentially seduced at the gym. And one that I closed out my time there with. That allowed me to experience actually "dating" along with the heights of pleasure, physically and emotionally. Which later led to the depths of depression and heartbreak.

My time there was incredible. I got to be the only American in a distant land. I had some lows and feelings of loneliness and being misunderstood. Which allowed for a comeback and a peak in feeling free socially. I had the greatest spring break of my life, traveling around Southern Ireland, England and Germany, and I got to fall in love.

I am extremely lucky that I got to have this experience, and to study abroad twice in my scholastic experience. Thank you to everyone I met over there, especially those who continue to read this blog, watch my snapchats, and like my instagram posts. Living there for six months changed my life.

Sunday, May 19, 2019

What to write about

My intention for this blog was to be funny and to share stories from my past. I have taken a turn into more self helpy, relationship and female exploration, the past few months/years.

I have found value in revealing myself and sharing details that may bring value to whoever reads this. I don't always enjoy knowing that people may know certain things about me, but I enjoy when other people sacrifice parts of themselves to create relatedness. It's also a way to satisfy my ego or put myself out there and be digested by folks. 

I have been very interested in women and relationships recently. I have done a lot of research on women, seduction and dating. I find it interesting and have more fin dating now. And, with having gone through a traumatic, long distance break up. I realized that I had been neglecting a lot of what I have been learning in this realm, in pursuit of keeping the relationship alive. I was angry for awhile, and regretful of having stayed in a relationship that I could have left awhile ago, and moved on before things got so ugly. 

I felt very hurt, and I victimized myself for how the relationship ended. I later realized that everything I did, allowed for it to end the way it did. Everything I ignored about her came out, and I felt I was being "punished" for being naive and ignoring reality. 

I am now single and dating, working a full time job, graduated college and performing improv shows regularly. I am writing songs, booking solo shows and creating other performance opportunities. My life is seemingly back on track completely. I have the necessary boxes checked that I wanted to have checked at this point. I still have a lot of thoughts about my life, and want a lot more with it. I thought I might feel differently if I had all of these boxes checked, but also knew that I wouldn't be "fixed".

I don't want to share some of this. I would prefer that my family not know some of the things I share on here. And I also get that not giving a fuck would better serve me in some areas. People will read this if they want, and people will stop half way through, or not bother at all. 

We are all going to be dead someday, so why does it matter what people think of you? Well, we have to deal with them and their opinions while we are alive. So other people's opinions seem like they have importance.

In general as people, we care about what we do, what others do, and how we are perceived by the people in our lives. So we abide by societal rules that puts lids on our self expression and our potential. We live by the direction that the voice in our heads try to steer us, and we think that the voice in our head is how life really is. We think the voice in our head is right, but it is mostly just trying to keep us out of harms way, or prevent us from being fully alive. 

I don't know what I'm really saying here. I don't feel I have put enough effort into this blog this year. I don't know if I really give a shit or if I am just manufacturing it. I don't want to appear as weak, I want people to like me, I want to appear as deep and authentic. I want people to read this and get something out of it, and to think more like me. I want to figure everything out, and I don't want to struggle, I want to be comfortable. I want to be getting blown all the time, and I know that that would get old.  I want to make ignorant trash raps songs that are nothing like this blog.

Thursday, April 4, 2019

My one day stand in Bath


The day was APRIL 3rd 2018

This was during my Easter Break in England. I had just had a series of adventures in Southern Ireland for a week. I went to Dublin, Galway, Ennis, Killarney, and back to Dublin, then came home to Bath for a couple of days. I had been abstinent for two weeks taking part in NoFap, (a popular phenomenon of refraining from pornography, masturbation and sex. Which I have taken on again this month of NoFApril) I was feeling happy and confident, and had a really productive morning, then I went to the gym. 

I went to go to the lockers I would  normally go to, but all of them were taken. So, instead I went up the stairs to the gym area to put my stuff in the lockers there. I was walking up and saw a beautiful girl. She kind of held the door open for me, she had a humungous and beautiful ass, and she had dark hair and brown eyes, I followed her to the lockers.

She took a locker to the right of me and I said hey, she said “Who me?” I said yeah, I asked for her name, she told me it was Beccy. I told her I was at Bath Spa University studying acting for the semester, obviously she noticed I was American. She said she was at a University in Newcastle (Northern England) studying medicine. It was very flirty and playful, then she left to go work out and I went on the treadmill.

I ran for a bit, then saw her at the leg machine and approached her again. We talked a bit about Newcastle and some other stuff, she told me that she was from Bath and was home on Easter break, I left her alone and lifted some weights after a few minutes.

Later she was in the stretching area. There were four mats on the stretching area. She was on the second one, and there were two girls on the third, and some one on the first one, so I went on the fourth one. I stretched there for awhile, I was thinking about asking these two girls to switch with me for awhile before I finally did. They did switch with me and Beccy smiled as I sat next to her and we began to talk again. She was extremely sexy and alluring, I was aroused and hard basically the whole time we were talking on the mats. It was so flirty and hot, our faces were getting very close in this gym. I added her on Facebook and said I looked forward to seeing her the next day. I messaged her later that night and suggested we meet up at a coffee place tomorrow, and she agreed.

APRIL 4th 2018

I waited for a couple of minutes in this coffee place until she arrived. We drank some coffee, and chatted, again throughout our entire date I was basically erect. We had a great chat, she was very curious and interesting. I suggested that we go somewhere else, and whenever I would name a place she said she didn't want to go there. She was quite stubborn. Instead she wanted to drive me to a different town called Bradford on Avon, so we got in her car and went there.

It was a beautiful little town, we walked around for a bit and then got some lunch. I asked her what the craziest thing she’d ever done was. She said that she broke into an abandoned home and had sex with her boyfriend on the roof of it. She talked a bit about having sex in public as well, (In bathrooms, on playgrounds etcetera).

We walked around a bit after lunch, it was a beautiful day, we saw a cat walking on a ledge, we pet it for a bit. Later we were walking down some steps, I was in front of her and stopped to kiss her, as she was more on my height level to do so comfortably. (She was 5'2).

We drove back home and I let her know that I was attracted to her and wanted to have sex with her. She was giving my minor excuses for awhile, but I knew she wanted to as well, then she said she would if she could find somewhere to park. Which we did.

We parked up and walked past my friend Bamf who smiled and winked at me. We went up to my room and had a 20 minute shag.

I walked her back to her car and said goodbye, I then walked over to Bamf and talked about what had just happened. He was my buddy that I made over there, he worked as a street vendor, and was someone I visited often.

This was a great and unique experience and a chance happening that I am proud of pulling off. She was a girl that grew up in Bath who was back on her Easter Break, and I was only back for two days during my Easter break and connected with her randomly. I also found that afterwards I was thinking of ways that I could have had more fun with her, and still in amazement that it happened.

After she left I watched cartoons in my room for a bit. Then I went and hung out with my parents and sister, as they’d come to England to visit me for about a week. We went on a trip together around Bath, Oxford, Liverpool and London. That was the best sexual part of the best Easter break of my life so far. 

This happened a year ago today 4/4.